This game, as well as England's world cup, was over when Rooney was sent-off. I mean sure the team held it's own even down to 10 men....but c'mon, you're not gonna win with Peter Crouch alone upfront. This was ofcourse vastly due to Sven's shortsightedness, but the red card was the deathblow for this game.
As for the penalties - it's simple - England can't win a game on penalties, no matter how well they are prepared. As soon as the ref blew the whistle for the end of the 120 mins, England were out.